Nine Lessons Song of Solomon taught me about sex

 The Bible is complete. God has packaged everything we need to know about life within the pages of scriptures. You can learn about finances, about relationships and then about sex, and you can be sure that you are learning it God's way.

Song of Solomon is a very interesting book of the Bible. Who says God cannot teach you sex🤪. God can teach you anything. In God's word lie answers to whatever question in your heart, concerning any subject matter. 

Recently, I studied the songs of Solomon. In this post, I will highlight some of the verses that blessed me and how I plan to apply them to my sexual life.
Nine Lessons Song of Solomon taught me about sex

Awake, north wind, and come, south wind! Blow on my garden, that its fragrance may spread everywhere. Let my beloved come into his garden and taste its choice fruits.

Song of Songs 4:16 NIV

From verse 1 to  15, Solomon had praised and admired his wife's body. Verse 16 was her response to all his praise and admiration.
I noticed that she was very open to her husband, and received him with enthusiasm. She addressed her body as 'his garden', and invited him to come, joyfully. She received her husband with gladness of heart, and accepted every word of affirmation without shame. 
Nine Lessons Song of Solomon taught me about sex

Your lips drop sweetness as the honeycomb, my bride; milk and honey are under your tongue. The fragrance of your garments is like the fragrance of Lebanon.

Song of Songs 4:11 NIV

Here, I learnt about kissing my husband passionately.  I should take my time to kiss and be kissed properly. The husband could even describe what was under her tongue. There must have been some passionate and long kissing 😂.

I slept but my heart was awake. Listen! My beloved is knocking: “Open to me, my sister, my darling, my dove, my flawless one. My head is drenched with dew, my hair with the dampness of the night.”  I have taken off my robe— must I put it on again? I have washed my feet— must I soil them again?  My beloved thrust his hand through the latch-opening; my heart began to pound for him.  I arose to open for my beloved, and my hands dripped with myrrh, my fingers with flowing myrrh, on the handles of the bolt.  I opened for my beloved, but my beloved had left; he was gone. My heart sank at his departure. I looked for him but did not find him. I called him but he did not answer.  The watchmen found me as they made their rounds in the city. They beat me, they bruised me; they took away my cloak, those watchmen of the walls!  Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you— if you find my beloved, what will you tell him? Tell him I am faint with love.

Song of Songs 5:2‭-‬8 NIV

Here, I saw how the Shulamite woman lingered in opening the door for her beloved because she was probably tired and asleep. By the time she stood up to open the door, the beloved had left.

I learnt about being receptive to my husband's advances and being available to meet his sexual needs.  As much as there is no excuse for sin, failing to meet his sexual needs might cause him to be unnecessarily exposed to temptations.
I also noticed all the things she passed through in looking for her beloved after he had left. Sometimes, leaving could mean emotional leaving, not necessarily leaving into the arms of another woman. An example of emotional leaving is this; he could become glued to his work, and tries to divert all his attention to his work. Getting him back might not come easy, so I should never allow him leave.

The watchmen who went about the city found me. They struck me, they wounded me; The keepers of the walls Took my veil away from me. I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem, If you find my beloved, That you tell him I am lovesick!

Song of Solomon 5:7‭-‬8 NKJV

Here, I noticed that the Shulamite was very quick to resolve conflicts. As soon as she noticed that she had hurt her husband with her rejection, she started looking for him and finding ways of being reconciled to him. 
I learnt never to allow conflicts linger. Whether or not am at fault, I learnt to be quick in resolving conflicts.
Nine Lessons Song of Solomon taught me about sex

My beloved is white and ruddy, Chief among ten thousand. His head is  like the finest gold; His locks are wavy, And black as a raven. His eyes are like doves By the rivers of waters, Washed with milk, And fitly set. His cheeks are like a bed of spices, Banks of scented herbs. His lips are lilies, Dripping liquid myrrh. His hands are rods of gold Set with beryl. His body is carved ivory Inlaid with sapphires. His legs are pillars of marble Set on bases of fine gold. His countenance is like Lebanon, Excellent as the cedars. His mouth is most sweet, Yes, he is altogether lovely. This is my beloved, And this is my friend, O daughters of Jerusalem!

Song of Solomon 5:10‭-‬16 NKJV

In these verses, I love the way the Shulamite described her husband to the daughters of Jerusalem. Here, I learnt to speak highly of my husband to people, no matter what.
I also learnt that I should be able to describe my husband's physical appearance in words. In order to be able to do this, it means I must be conscious in admiring and observing every part of his body. I must learn to pay attention to his body details. I liked that she could describe every part of his body, even his locks, his lips, and his mouth. I learnt that during sex, I should touch my husband's body parts consciously and relish each of them.
I also learnt to always maintain a positive confession about my husband. At the time when she was speaking here, they had a conflict. Despite that, she maintained a positive confession about her husband and she continued to perceive her husband highly. My perception of my husband must not change no matter the situation or circumstance. I must always perceive him as best.
Nine Lessons Song of Solomon taught me about sex

Your two breasts are like two fawns, twins of a gazelle.

Song of Solomon 7:3 NKJV

Here, I learnt that my breasts are very important to my husband and so I should not deny him access to them.  I should allow him to be satisfied with my breasts. I noticed that in many more verses, Solomon kept on affirming her breasts😄.

This stature of yours is like a palm tree, And your breasts like its clusters. I said, “I will go up to the palm tree, I will take hold of its branches.” Let now your breasts be like clusters of the vine, The fragrance of your breath like apples,

Song of Solomon 7:7‭-‬8 NKJV
Nine Lessons Song of Solomon taught me about sex

I am my beloved’s, And his desire is toward me. Come, my beloved, Let us go forth to the field; Let us lodge in the villages. Let us get up early to the vineyards; Let us see if the vine has budded, Whether the grape blossoms are open, And the pomegranates are in bloom. There I will give you my love. The mandrakes give off a fragrance, And at our gates are pleasant fruits, All manner, new and old, Which I have laid up for you, my beloved.

Song of Solomon 7:10‭-‬13 NKJV

Here, I learnt again to always receive my husband's affirmations with gladness and rejoicing of heart. 
I also learnt that I should always initiate time out with my husband, preferably without the kids. I should initiate timeout in the field, in the village, in the vineyard. This means I have to be creative in choosing our locations.
Such time out are very important for us and should be a regular part of our marriage.
I also learnt that I should be free to initiate sex and that I should be willing to try out new styles and new positions. I should carefully plan for those timeouts by laying up all manners of sex styles, both new and old for my beloved husband (there I will give you my love. The mandrakes give off a fragrance, And at our gates are pleasant fruits, All manner, new and old, Which I have laid up for you, my beloved).
Nine Lessons Song of Solomon taught me about sex

How fair is your love, My sister, my spouse! How much better than wine is your love, And the scent of your perfumes Than all spices! Your lips, O my spouse, Drip as the honeycomb; Honey and milk are under your tongue; And the fragrance of your garments Is  like the fragrance of Lebanon.

Song of Solomon 4:10‭-‬11 NKJV

Here, I see that personal hygiene is very important. I learnt that it's important to prepare myself for my husband. I learnt to pay attention to my smell, because it is not going unnoticed. 
I see that Solomon noticed the scent of her perfumes and then the Fragrance of her garments. I learnt to pay more attention to these.

Awake, O north wind, And come, O south! Blow upon my garden, That its spices may flow out. Let my beloved come to his garden And eat its pleasant fruits.

Song of Solomon 4:16 NKJV

I see here that she commanded the north wind and the south wind to blow upon her garden, that its spices may flow out, even before she invited her beloved to come and eat of his garden.
I learnt that I can command what I want concerning my garden before inviting my husband over. I can also pray about my husband being satisfied with my garden. 
I can take charge of my garden and declare what I want, especially in situations where it is not functioning properly.
The garden refers to her genitals.

So, I hope you learnt some lessons too.

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