Two reasons why you should submit to your husband

Hello wifey,

Some weeks ago, I wrote an article on what submission is and I had a break afterwards. Today, I will be writing on four reasons why you should submit to your husband.

 1. Recognition of authority

Submission is a response to authority. Once you recognise that someone has an authority over you, in whatever regard, your voluntary response should be to put yourself under such an authority. It's important to know that in a marriage relationship, the husband is the head of the wife.

Two reasons why you should submit to your husband

For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.

Ephesians 5:23 NKJV

Did you see that scripture?

The husband is the head of the wife, just as Christ is the head of the Church. The response of the church (of which you are a member) to Christ is to submit. Within the marriage context, the response of the wife to the husband, being her head is to submit.

Imagine if scriptures have said that the wife is the head of the it would have been expected of the husband to submit to the wife.  God however chose to make the man the head of the woman.  He knows the makeup of both of them, since he created them and he knows that the man would do a better job as the head.

Headship of your husband is a God given role and responsibility, and your submission to him is very important in helping him to fulfil that God given role.

Headship of your husband does not mean he's superior to you. It's his assignment.

Look at it this way.

In your place of work, a committee is constituted.  Someone needs to head and so a particular guy was appointed as the head because of some leadership skills he had demonstrated in the past. You were assigned the role of being in charge of the finances, because of some past achievements in that area as well. Of course, it does not mean that the guy is better than you, it only means that his area of specialization has been recognised. In order for the committee to work well however, you need to be ready to receive instructions from him, and allow him lead. Failure to submit to his authority can lead to chaos. 

Headship does not mean superiority. The Father, Son, and Holy Spirit are fully equal in the sense that all the three are God. At the same time, there’s a certain hierarchy in their unity. 

Jesus clearly spoke of Himself as being equal with God.

Therefore the Jews sought all the more to kill Him, because He not only broke the Sabbath, but also said that God was His Father, making Himself equal with God.

John 5:18 NKJV

and then He also said, “The Father is greater than I”

You have heard Me say to you, ‘I am going away and coming back to you.’ If you loved Me, you would rejoice because I said,  ‘I am going to the Father,’ for My Father is greater than I.

John 14:28 NKJV

Headship is an assignment that has been given by God to your husband,  which does not mean that he's superior to you, but that order or hierarchy is needed in the marriage relationship for order and structure. To fulfil that assignment, he needs your submission. He needs you to put yourself under, and allow him to be the head.

Two reasons why you should submit to your husband

Begin to perceive your husband rightly. As much as he is your friend, or your lover, he's also your head. Correct perception will lead to correct response.

*That's why one of the most important things to consider before accepting to marry a man is if you are willing to accept him as your head.

Accept your husband as your head, and perceive him as your head, knowing that being your head is a role that God gave him, not something he imposed on Himself. Also knowing that headship is not a responsibility of enjoyment. It's actually a great task.

*Submission for wives is a blessing in disguise.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

Ephesians 5:22‭, ‬25‭-‬32 NKJV

See all the responsibility that came with his role.

2.  Reference and love for God

Two reasons why you should submit to your husband

We submit to our husband out of our love for the Lord. It's the Lord that has given him the position of headship. It's the Lord that instructed us to submit.

We produce an appropriate response of submission because we know that God is the one who has made the husband the head and because we love the Lord.

For a woman to truly submit to her husband, she needs to be a woman who truly loves and revers the Lord. A woman that takes God's word at his face value, a woman that submits to the leadership of God's word. One way to show that we love the Lord is by obeying His word. If you claim to love God, and you do not obey His word, then you need to check it. 

One thing that I have realized is that the more you prioritise your relationship with God, the more you fellowship and commune with Him, the more the Lord takes the first place in your life, the easier it becomes to submit.

As a wife, your most important relationship is your relationship with God. Christ is the head of the church (of which you are a solid member). Christ is your head because you are a member of the church. Your husband is your head (by virtue of being married to him). 

The more you fellowship with Christ, the easier it is to submit to your husband.

Here's the link to another article I wrote on submission.

Enjoy God's blessings.


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